When Life Isn’t Fair


Maybe you are like me and you have caught yourself saying “this isn’t fair” about a situation. You find yourself looking at the situations of others and wondering why they aren’t dealing with the same unfair circumstances. We all know those people who seem to have everything go in their favor (Could it be that it just appears this way?) Sometimes, not all the time, but sometimes, we tend to focus on what doesn’t seem fair rather than what is beyond fair in our lives. Maybe if we could view those things which appear unfair in a different light we would see that they aren’t unfair at all. When we are able to do this we also tend to recognize all the huge blessings in our lives as well. If you allow the Bible to be your guide, which I strive for, this isn’t so hard to do. Difficult at times, but not impossible.

As I thought about this whole idea of “unfairness” I thought about all of the stories in the Bible. Stories of God working impossibly amazing miracles. I found that all of these stories involve two things: A willing follower and seemingly unfair circumstances. Honestly I couldn’t really think of anybody who this wasn’t true for. At least not anybody in whose life God was working in great and mighty ways. Sometimes we have to ask ourselves, are unfair circumstances worth the work that God wants to do in our lives? If you are a willing follower of Christ (only you know if you are) you can pretty much expect this to happen. Not forever, but for a time.

1 Peter 1:6-7 (NKJV) tells us “In this you greatly rejoice, though now for a little while, if need be, you have been grieved by various trials, that the genuineness of your faith, being much more precious than gold that perishes, though it is tested by fire, may be found to praise, honor, and glory at the revelation of Jesus Christ,”
Your genuine faith is worth more than gold! To me that’s an amazing fact to dwell on. God wants to use trials in our lives to bless us with unwavering genuine faith, the kind of faith that can move mountains. This doesn’t sound too unfair to me. Knowing this helps me to rejoice when things seem unfair and believe that God is working.

Think about Joseph (Genesis 37-45), could his life have been anymore unfair? He was hated by his brothers, sold into slavery, a servant of another man’s household, falsely accused, and imprisoned for years. The best part about the whole thing is that God was with him the entire time and the Bible says he prospered in all of those situations. If that’s possible for Joseph then don’t you think it’s possible for me and you? God had to test his faith and grow his character before he could be used in such an amazing way, to save the lives of countless people. Maybe this is the case for you? For me?

When my daughter was born with a heart condition I didn’t think that was very fair at all. She was tiny, wouldn’t grow, Unable to nurse, needed medication 3 times a day, had dr visits every week, was behind in all physical milestones, threw up every single day (a lot and often all over me!), and ended up having open heart surgery at 7 months old. My 2 month old weighed as much as her sister did at 7 months when she had surgery. None of this seemed fair but I can tell you that God truly did a work in me during this unfair time. He grew my faith and practically abolished my anxieties regarding health and illness. I look back and cannot believe the grace I received to get through all of that with a positive attitude and my faith intact. I am a different person today than I was before that happened. Think about unfair and tough times God brought you through. Are you the same person today that you were before? Maybe you say, well I’m worse. And that might be so, but choose now to face those trials differently than you might have before. Allow God to test and prove the genuineness of your faith and shape you into the person He created you to be. The person you need to be in order to live the life God has planned for you. Lean on Him through these “unfair” times and see how gracious and loving He truly is. I promise He won’t let you down!

Sometimes my husband and I talk about the ways that God has refined us through trials. We think about how we were versus how we are now. This encourages us to keep pushing through the “unfair” trials we are currently facing, reminding us that God is working. Always remember, God is more concerned with the genuineness of our faith than He is with “fairness”.

I’m not saying that at the end of your trial awaits riches and monetary wealth, what awaits us is far greater. A genuine faith that can move mountains and impact countless individuals for Christ. If this is what you want your life to represent keep moving through those trials and get ready for God to do great things in your life.

A final note, if the trials you face are consequences of sin in your life or an unwillingness to follow Christ and you want that to change, repent and allow God’s grace to transform you. It surely will!

Hope in the Midst of Trials


Have you ever faced a trial that seemed like too much to bear? Whenever this happens to me God reminds me of the story of Joseph. I remember all he had to endure to get to the place that God wanted him to be (Genesis 37). Joseph was able to handle the trials he faced because God was with him. In the same way, if we stand close to God and set our hearts and minds on Him we will be able to endure the trials we face. Despite the peace that comes from this realization, I often find myself asking God why. Why do I have to endure these trials? Why can’t God just get me where he wants me trial free? I’m sure you often wonder the same thing.

So why does God allow us to face trials? Trials that are often painful and seemingly unbearable. James 1:2-4 (NKJV) says, “my brethren, count it all joy when you fall into various trials, knowing that the testing of your faith produces patience. But let patience have its perfect work, that you may be perfect and complete, lacking nothing.” Facing trials grows our faith and produces patience, helping us to become capable of becoming who God intended us to be. If we truly believe that facing various trials will make us perfect and complete, lacking nothing, then we should welcome them with open arms, being expectant that great things will come from them.

Joseph wasn’t qualified to become who God needed him to be. He had to go through some trying times in order to develop into the man that would be capable of humbly ruling a nation while at the same time faithfully serving God. This is a serious and somewhat impossible task. The seventeen-year-old Joseph might not have been up to the task. In his pride Joseph shared with his brothers his dream of ruling over his family. This led to his brothers hating him and eventually selling him into slavery. What if that Joseph, the bragger, didn’t have to go through the trials that he did? Do you think he would have been as capable of all that God had for him? God used the awful things Joseph had to face to strengthen his faith and dependence on God. This is the kind of man who can rule a nation humbly, honoring and bringing glory to God. Had life gone well and easily for him he might not have developed into the man of God he became, being used to save an entire nation.

I have had to face a lot of painful and difficult trials in my life. In the past I often questioned why God allowed things to happen. What I have come to find is that God can use any trial, no matter how horrible it is, for good. When Joseph saw his brothers again he said the most amazing thing to them. Every time I read it I am in awe of God and His grace! He said “But as for you, you meant evil against me; but God meant it for good, in order to bring it about as it is this day, to save many people alive.” (Genesis 50:20) This is such a beautiful picture of God’s grace and love for us. Don’t lose hope in the midst of your trial. Remind yourself that God is always faithful and good and will use for good what others meant for evil.

Maybe you are currently going through some tough times and are questioning whether or not God is with you. Take some comfort in the fact that even while serving as a slave in another man’s household, and while in prison, God was with Joseph and he prospered. On top of this, when Joseph ran into his brothers, you know the ones who wanted to kill him and eventually sold him to slavery, he felt nothing but love for them, comforting them and speaking kindly to them. This is a true example of Joseph’s character. A character that I believe was shaped and molded through his trials as he held onto God and didn’t waiver in his faith. As you face your trials focus on the fact that God is refining you and molding you to better reflect his image.

I’m not sure why you are facing the trials you are facing, but I do know for sure that God wants nothing but the best for you and your life. If you decide to surrender your life to Him and accept Jesus Christ as your savior no trial you ever face again will be too much for you to handle.